Now let's move
on. Emotions can be an indicator instead of a dictator. What do I mean by
that? Emotions are what make us humans, of course, and we can choose to let
them guide us in our future of work. if you are a new listener, check out the
relevant episodes 4, 22, 43, and 45 as linked in the show notes on the future
of work.
[00:27:50] Why a rational approach is helpful
to such an emotional topic can be explained in three ways. 1. According to the
Theory of Cognitive Dissonance by Leon 1957, people are uncomfortable making
the right decision when faced with incompatible thoughts.
[00:28:08] You then unconsciously tend to
interpret incompatible thoughts to fit the decision you have made. That is, you
sugarcoat things. If the thoughts become emotional and there is a strong need
to gloss over the matter in order to be in harmony with the decision, it really
costs a lot of mental resources.
[00:28:32] And that is particularly true for
women during pregnancy, after birth, while breastfeeding, and that's because of
the hormones. And for all parents during the child's milestones and nursery
school, primary school, secondary school, illnesses, extraordinary events,
parental overload and fatigue, etc.
[00:28:53] Here it would make sense to support
each other as parents and to know that this is a time that you have to deal
with together and accept that you have a personal network that you can ask or
build a personal network so that you can ask it when the going gets tough.
[00:29:11] So, your struggles do not become
too burdensome and then lead to stress.
[00:29:17] At that point at the latest, there
is a risk of slow or below performance, and that can slow down and threaten
your career. That's why if career is important for you, you have to Attend to
the warning signs early enough so that you can rearrange your work, flag that
you need help, etc.
[00:29:41] Number two is delay of
gratification. That is according to Mischel, 1958, and that's the ability to
forego an immediate effortless reward in order to obtain a larger, effortful
reward in the future. And the later in the future, the greater reward is, the
harder the delay of gratification is.
[00:30:03] Therefore, especially with the
multiple burdens of having children and a career,
[00:30:08] resource replenishing activities
such as daily short relaxation, rest time, meal, exercise, fresh air, etc. for
yourself, or relaxing vacations with a family and if necessary, also as a
couple or alone
[00:30:24] are ideally planned,
[00:30:26] at regular intervals and remembered
in turbulent phases
[00:30:29] and anticipate it with joy in
turbulent phases of your life. And I do that since a couple of years, that once
we know the school schedule and my life schedule, then we try to book our
holidays so that we have something to look forward to. Number three is somatic
markers. And that's from Damasio from 91. Somatic or physical markers are
signals that can be perceived more or less consciously when a situation occurs.
[00:31:06] When a decision is made and when
the consequences are experienced. If the triggering situation repeats itself
again and again, then the expected consequences based on the memory can lead to
physical signals before the decision is made, which then influences the
decision if these are attended to. Conscious reflection on good or bad
consequences help here in order to master future situations to your satisfaction.